More than that, you miss out on the chance to have them miss you, long for you, and remember you in a positive way.If you are calling, texting, or “checking up” too much, then he may well think of you in a negative way when he’s evaluating you and the marriage and wondering what he wants to happen with the separation.So I believe I have a good handle on what works and what doesn’t during the separation.In the following article, I’ll be covering what I think are the Bug Your Spouse Too Much: Give The “Time Apart” The Chance To Work: I know that it feels very scary when you’re away from your spouse.And frankly, this message might make your spouse follow your lead and shut you out. Don’t Place All Of Your Focus On Changing His Mind About The Separation Or Getting Him To End The Separation Before He’s Ready To Do So: I completely get that you want the separation over as soon as possible.But if you’re constantly pressuring him and he’s not ready to make a decision, he’ll either be annoyed or more inclined to make a decision that you wouldn’t like. You want him to know that what and who you really care about is him, his happiness, and your happiness as a couple. (Your plan is that it’s not going to but he doesn’t have to know that.) You’re whole message should be that you’re respecting his needs but you want to maintain the relationship, no matter what definition that might take at the time.
You want them to think that you are keeping busy and handling your life just fine. If you’re trying to make your spouse feel like you can turn your feelings on and on at the drop of a hat or that you’re commitment to your marriage is something that is fleeting, you’re likely sending the wrong message.I know it may feel like you’re playing a game sometimes. Given the amount of time we spend at work, it is little wonder that many people find their passion and excitement in the office.I often hear from people (usually wives) who are going through a separation (or considering one) and want the whole process to be over as soon as possible so that they can save their marriages.Many agreed to the separation because they saw no other way.You worry that they’re moving further away from you if they’re happier being separated and may eventually want a divorce.