It was the only time in my life that I got depressed: poor sleep, suppressed appetite, Kafka. The next kiss didn't come for another 4 years, when I was in medical school. Turns out that the skill set required to navigate the tricky waters of romantic interaction wasn't in any book I had read or any class I had taken. As guys, a lot of what we did in physics and math class was to try to straighten crooked stuff out.
She was also 19, with an irresistible English accent and very cute to boot. Except that she dumped me, pulverizing my heart into nanoparticles.
And it wouldn't be a stretch to say that most people's lives revolve around their primary love relationship. However, women will tell you that there's nothing more attractive in a man than self-acceptance (which is the same as complacency).
So towards the end of med school, I started to read some pertinent books and hanging out with guys savvier than me in this dating realm.
So seek out some good dating resources and put in the same amount of zealous effort that you've put into your achievements all your life, and you will be rewarded.
Evolution decrees that in the mating dance, the male pursues and the female is pursued. So be less interested in her than she is in you, or at least pretend you are, so she has a chance to move towards . It's not some kind of god-given talent that you're either born with or without.
She can quite easily find a suitable engineer to go out with.
To all you who work at the likes of Google, Amazon, Microsoft, D. Shaw, Mc Kinsey -- all the geeks, nerds, grad students, techies, hackers, engineers and gadgeteers. Just like water flows downhill and electrons go from high to low potential, there is also an attraction gradient. Like playing the violin or writing code, success in dating and romance is a skill: you get better at it the more you practice.Any super model type of guy who is literally a hunk will always be the eye candy for any girl or woman. Since they only go for these stud muffins, they fail to see the true potential of an engineer who studies all day and wears nerdy looking glasses.It goes out to all the 20-year old virgins, the still-unmarried 45-year olds, and the already-divorced 30-year olds who don't know what hit them. You don't expect to ace an exam just by getting lucky, do you? If there were a dating bible for the smart man, these would be its commandments: 1. As a teenager, I always wondered, when would it happen for me? So it is evident that they will have a life outside the circle of commitment.