He contends, “Yeah, and I think [ideas about desirability and otherness are] influenced by our culture and media, and our history.” As a Black woman, these kinds of conversations on desirability and otherness are a bit taxing and a quite hurtful. What’s also very real is new trends in Black women dating Asian men—not because each feels undesirable to the world, but because each are desirable to one another.“Blasian” romances can be found everywhere these days, whether perusing Facebook groups, or meeting with Black female and Asian male couples face to face, or liking photos of Blasian couples on Tumblr.He continues, “Recent statistics have shown that East Asian men are viewed as the least desirable male partners in American society.” (In this article, I’ll use “Asian” as shorthand for East Asian men, who are Taiwanese, Japanese, Korean, Chinese, and so on.) The writer also adds, “The unattractiveness of Asian-American men can be linked to their perceived lack of masculinity.
When asked why Black women and Asian men find themselves in the predicament of being considered undesirable in the fashion industry (and overall), Chaunsumlit answers, n terms of casting, it’s harder for Black women to get those jobs and it’s hard for Asian men to get those jobs because it’s a question of, “Are they considered attractive? ” A lot of the time,s they’re only presented in ways in which they’re “otherized.” Chaunsumlit also believes these trends in the fashion industry (and possibly in overall media) affects society as a whole.Years ago, I read that Asian men are also less likely to marry non-Asian women, and are also less likely to be married overall.In an article titled The Unmarriables: Why Black Women and Asian Men Should Date, Lauretta Charlton explores why Black women and Asian men, who seem to be less chosen, should get to choosing each other."In the way that Asian men have been distorted to reflect femininity, so too have Black women become masculinized," argues Schwartz. As Zora Neale Hurston once wrote, Black women and Asian men are not "tragically colored." I especially feel that the world is over-fascinated with who messages Black women on Tindr and why Black women aren't marrying.While presenting authentic commentary on Black women's experiences with love, I have to make sure that my words work to uplift Black women as opposed to further "othering" them.Blasian couples may have more in common than anyone would have ever guessed.