One was even his secretary letting him know another woman had called and he needed to call her back.I thought his secretary was my friend, so hearing that voice mail really hurt.He even forced a knife in my hand once and tried to stab himself, with my hand, so he could claim I was trying to stab him….I was so stupid and trusting and hoped and prayed and met with his therapists….everything….he never felt remorse, actually only cried when thought about how what all he had done said about him.He never cared about what it did to me, or our son. Broke my finger, threw me to the ground or across the room…was losing control of the situation because he controlled everything with lies, and I was now looking and finding them. The strip club, he knew the strippers personally, had their numbers, met them outside the club.A friend called me to tell me he was married with three kids a year later when she found out.All my family and friends now tell me they never trusted him, they always felt like he treated me wrong, and that he is a player. He went out with her when his first wife was pregnant and they were still together.I now know that there are real monsters that have no empathy and no conscience.So fast forward into eleven years of marriage, and as each year went by he seemed to become more and more irrational and mean.
I hung on so long, prayed, cried, begged, but he just continued and went beserk and lied and lied.I have posted here several times, but have never shared my story. Mine did not end with my husband caring enough to get help and change his ways. When I got the phone call he did not recognize my voice or that he had dialed me, even repeated him self when I said “what? He skipped work a lot (he was an executive), so when I thought he was working or working late, or on a business trip, he was really out with others or at his strip clubs.Turns out everyone at his company knows he was a player.When I called his family for help to help him, his sister immediately blamed me and stated that it takes two the make infidelity happen. He meant to call another woman he had just met out.